Heres To The Tired Mommas

For two days in a row I've been sick in bed with nothing better to do than to drown out the noise of what sounds like the lost boys taking over my house with mindless time spent on Pinterest and Facebook. And. let. me. tell. you. something.

I have never felt more overwhelmed and angered by how often social media is being used to platform this crazy idea that us moms are supposed to have this thing figured out by now. And if we don't, theres a blog for that.

Can't potty train your unruly child? Google it.

Can't figure out how to fit some good ol' fashioned time with Jesus into your day? Check your facebook feed and you'll find something catchy that will remind you that you aren't doing enough of it.

Have no idea what to make for dinner? Better Pinterest that. Im finding out that we don't really pin and post about the nights that we order pizza from the cheapest and closest location to our house just because we'd rather not walk into the grocery store with wild pirates in tow.

But theres this thing... this thing called real-life that people aren't face-booking, or blogging about, or pinning on Pinterest.


We start forgetting that being a good mom isn't about meeting everyone else's standards.


And in the middle of it all, somehow we let all of those opinions, mommy blogs, pinterest boards, and everyone's "just sayin" opinions take over our  hearts and we convince ourselves that we will never be able to do this mom thing good enough.

Heres what I do know:

I know that if we keep listening to everyone else's ideas and opinions on how we can be the best parent there is, we will live miserably and we will drown in our own self doubt. Most of us mommas are already drowning in what everyone else is telling us to measure up to and we just can't quite admit that.

I know that no Pinterest board, extra spiritual blog post, or any special parenting book will be the magic cure for my children staying out of a therapists office. Every family has their crazy, lets just be okay with that for a moment.

I know that its unacceptable that I feel the need to justify to people and family around me whether or not I chose to work full time outside of the home, or stay at home with my kids. Whether my kids go to full time daycare, have their own nanny, or I stay at home with them all day shouldn't be an open door for other's opinions on what might be best for our family.

Whether or not I decide to cook an organic meal from scratch for my kids (who probably wouldn't eat it anyways) or order take out for the third night in a row because its not grocery shopping day yet shouldn't have any bearing on my worth as a mom, but it does.

And in the middle of all of these Facebook shares, pinning on Pinterest, and comments that we let yell so loudly into our souls, we forget what on earth we are doing. 

Y'all. We were not created to be everything to everyone.

Lets chose our people wisely.

Lets find some women in our lives who can speak truth in love to us when we might not be ready to hear it.

Lets meet with friends who will encourage us, and laugh at our ridiculous mom stories without fear of judgement.

Lets be people who stop listening to everyone and everything around us and drown out the noise with the absolute truth of who God has created us to be.

Lets find our identity in who created our identity and stop looking for the next great book to fix that for us.

Lets be people who stop judging and start loving.

So heres to you mom who made it to bedtime. It's not easy, and you are doing this thing well. You will not be perfect at it, and you were not created to do this thing alone.

Its time to drown out the noise, find your people, and love your people well.